Hey sis! Today we are going to address a topic that is hard for us to really admit to ourselves. What happened to the “ME”? Who is she now? How do I connect with her again?
One of the hardest part of being a stay-at-home mom is feeling like you lose yourself in the process of taking care of everyone else. You stop looking in the mirror, stop being concerned with your own health and wellness, you forget about all the potential inside of you, and it seems like who you used to be is now unrecognizable.
My friend, she’s still there. That fabulous woman is still inside that fabulous momma! And we are going to bring the “ME” back to the surface! Your kiddos deserve to have the part of you that dreamed of them.
Thinking about the past can be depressing in some instances. However, thinking back on the moments where you were at your best can be really encouraging and life giving. Take a look at that young and vibrant you. Remember how excited she used to be at the thought of the future. Recall all the things you planned for you future family and how you dreamed up a great life.
Look back at how much you loved to dress up, have fun, or whatever gave you exhilaration. Once you have gathered up all those sweet memories, take a few that can be applied to who you are now. Revisiting the things that have sparked a fire in you, sparks a new fire in you for today and reminds you how amazing the “ME” in you really is and why you should bring her back!
Somewhere in the process of motherhood, we forget that we were born to be creative and dream. And not just of a clean house.
Daydreaming about exciting new possibilities, what you can create, where you can go, or new ways to educate yourself, opens our minds to our potential. Thereby forcing us to see that we still exist beyond all the chores and demands that come with our home job. Scroll some dream destinations, missions trips, creative ideas, or classes online. Sit with a notebook and write down some new dreams or revive some old ones. How ever you decide to wonder, do it often.
Remember when you used to get all dolled up just because you were going outside? Why not get all dolled up, just because you can? Just because you want to look fabulous for Tuesday!
When we take time to put ourselves together, our self-esteem is boosted and we’re forced to look in the mirror at our beautiful faces. One of the things I noticed when I became a SAHM was that I wouldn’t look in the mirror any more. I guess I figured, “What’s the point?”. I wasn’t going anywhere. I had no adult interaction. I just kind of didn’t care. But then I thought, “What about me?”. I am still here. I can get cute for me, and my hubby.
We don’t have to dress like we’re going to the prom, just put together. Like we care. About ourselves. SO, get cute momma!
Though we are stay-at-home moms, that doesn’t mean that we are trapped indoors or at our address. One of the healthiest ways to connect with yourself is to get out. Without the children.
Even if you just go for a walk through the mall, go to lunch with a friend, get your nails done, anything that opens your eyes to see that there is a woman inside that momma who still needs to be let out and cared for. Taking time to escape the SAHM bubble ensures that when the SAHM life is over, there is still a woman left for the husband she’s married to. One of my favorite things to do is to have coffee dates with friends that are in different stages of life. We have conversations that do not revolve around children, laundry, or chores. We chat about what God is growing in us, what dreams we have, where we want to go, things that encourage a broader thinking.
When you come back, you are refreshed and ready to carry on with your job as mom.
Get a hobby that has nothing to do with motherhood
Look lady, there is so much more to you than folding clothes and sweeping floors. You were created with talents, ideas, and creativity, that are lying dormant in you waiting to be released. Even if you can’t make use of them during a full time job right now, be a good steward of those talents through extra curricular activity or service. Find you a group of like minded women who have a similar interest and make something, bake something, or talk about things that are great interests for you.
Use those gifts momma! Feed your soul!
Bringing the “ME” back matters because when it’s all said and done, we don’t want to be left with a shell of a woman. We want to be left with a strong, courageous, bold woman who is ready for her next adventure. Not longing for purpose.
Your Fellow Warrior Momma, J.E. Berry