As mothers we have to manage and navigate a mosaic of emotions. Not only do we have to manage our own, we have to manage the emotions of our off spring. Not an easy feat by any means!
Today we’ll deal with our own emotional situation. One feeling in particular. Disappointment.
Can I just say……disappointment sucks!!!! There’s nothing worst than blowng a balloon only to have someone bring out a pin. Totally deflated. Though many times we give no inclination of our disappointment, it doesn’t change the effects. Most of us swallow disappointment like trying to swallow a watermelon whole, then wonder why we’re left with indigestion. Feeling disappointed brings a ripple of emotions that can leave many marks under the surface that lead to choices made out of fear instead of faith.
So today, let’s talk about some healthier alternatives to swallowing disappointment watermelons.
Let’s face it, a good ol cry fest can be a great thing! Crying releases pressure, relieves some emotions, releases toxins, it helps us move on, and can help us just plain feel better. Many of us struggle to even allow ourselves to let out tears in fear that we will seem weak. However, it’s actually the opposite. Tear stained faces can actually rest above mighty strong hearts of faith. Jesus wept and HE is most certainly strong and mighty. So, let it out so that you can let it go!
He knows anyway but He wants you to bring him your burdens. “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30. Prayer may seem trivial when you are feeling big emotions, however prayer is BIG power to overcome. When we come to God in prayer, we make an exchange with Him for what He has. His hands are open to receive our heaviness and to offer us the light weight of peace and assurance only found with Him. To neglect this interaction is to accept our burdens.
One thing I’ve learned about disappointment is that we are never the only ones dealing with it. Everyone has or is dealing with some level of disappointment. Sharing our burdens with one another lightens the loads on our backs. Also, we never know who has been through the same circumstance that we are in who may have a great word of encouragement for us. When we are vulnerable with others, it offers a safe place to let go and take off the veil. Most people would love to experience transparent interaction even if they will not initiate. It’s healthy and healing for both people involved. Let someone know what you are going through, it could mean healing for the both of you.
Journaling is so underrated! I think sometimes we don’t realize how much we store up in our brains that starts to cloud our thought processes. Our minds are wonderful and can access thousands, if not millions of thoughts on a regular basis. However, our minds can also become inundated with the tasks of processing thoughts and emotions all at the same time leading to some mental health pressures that are not beneficial. Journaling allows us to release some mental pressure from our minds so that we can think and process more clearly. Writing down what we feel, why we feel that way, and what God has to say about it releases a lot of tension from the heart. Even just writing in small spurts throughout the day can be helpful. Journaling can also be done in your bible, along with Scripture that is a direct connection with what you are going through. I attach Scripture to my journaling every day!
Get your mind on the forward track. This is hard. I know. I’ve experienced it. But to be honest, placing the mind ahead can produce hope, self-encouragement, and gratitude in us when everything around us seems bleak. Looking forward creates a separation between us and the disappointment. Forward thinking reminds us that, “It will not always be this way.” Using this idea, take the time to write out what you learned from the disappointment you’ve experienced. Then start dreaming of what could be, what you have to look forward to, and what you can do moving forward that would make a great impact on your life and the lives of those around you. Get your heart moving toward positivity.
Disappointments are a part of life. No one escapes them no matter how good their lives look on social media. However, we can choose what to do with them, how we learn from them, and what impact we allow them to have on our lives.
My friend you have such an opportunity to put a spin on life’s let-downs and make them into springboards for your great successes! Don’t waste it!
Love, J.E. Berry